The Passion of the Two

The Passion of the Two is Pride. In the Two this pride is really about an unwillingness to acknowledge their own suffering. Twos are generous and want to help. Their attention is oriented towards others, focussed not only on the other person but on the space inbetween ie: the relationship - whatever it may be. They want intimacy, to feel close to others and because they fear that they are not loveable they pay a great deal of attention to doing things for other people in order to gain love. Of course, we all do this to a greater or lesser extent when we want to win affection but Twos can get caught in this dynamic, expending a lot of energy in trying to win people over. They tend to put themselves in the role of the rescuer to the extent that they forget their own needs. This can cause anger and resentment further down the line if they feel they do not get the love they deserve in return. They can literally wear themselves out trying to cater to others needs. Twos need to be aware of how much they give in order to receive because real love is not about giving to get in return. Loving in order to receive is a form of manipulation. Another way of describing the pride of the Two is Vainglory which is pride in one's own virtue. Healthy Twos are extremely selfless and are the sort of people who will give the last shirt off their back to someone in need. However Twos who are less present to themselves can start to become possessive and controlling and demanding of love. They 'pride themselves' that their motives are wholly selfless and loving - and so feel a sense of entitlement which they use to justify all sorts of behaviour in the name of love. Ironically, when caught in their passion, they can drive away the love of the very people they desire most to be loved by.