Find your One

Something I really appreciate about Ones is their ability to give objective advice. A healthy One is full of wise counsel. In one of my jobs, in particular, I really needed that and I could always rely on a work colleague who was a One to give it to me. She was unflappable, solid, sensible and full of integrity. Her integrity was such that instead of blurting out that my idea was stupid or what the hell did I think I was doing, she would listen and offer her thoughts without being pushy. She would say something like 'Why don't you go away and sleep on it?' or 'write down your feelings and see what comes up?' or 'I think you need to be careful about this (or that or the other) and she would explain why.

I can really recommend finding that One - someone you can absolutely trust to give you level-headed advice that comes from a principled place and so has your best interests at heart. Think of someone like... Michelle Obama - one of those Ones!