The Fear and Behaviour of the Two

The primary fear of the Two is that they are unlovable. The Two therefore works hard to be helpful and good, to be selfless, generous and kind - in short to do things, therefore, which they believe will make them loveable. This is all very commendable as Twos are genuinely the type of people that will give the last shirt off their back in order to help someone in need. When the Two is less healthy however and less present to themselves, this can lead to excessive people-pleasing and a sacrificing of their own needs and even health in order to help others. When this happens the Two is, in effect, over-prioritising others to the detriment of themselves. At this stage they become angry at others for not appreciating their efforts and their helping can become manipulative, aggressive and domineering. They put other people on notice by making threats. In other words the Two, although they may feel they are acting in the name of love, starts treating others in a way that makes those others feel unloveable.